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An Open Farewell to ChicRunner.com

August 31, 2010 11 comments

Dear Danica, 

I was super stoked to find your blog and it’s been tons of fun reading your posts on booty shorts and other useful products.  You share such amazing tips, like curling your hair with a straightening iron (who knew?) and adding a dab of snazz to a race singlet with a bedazzler (such a clever idea!). 

I’ve cheered you in races you’ve already run when, days later, you’ve posted the recap.  And while I admit to worrying you’ll skin a knee or worse, tear a meniscus while texting at a sub-9 minute per mile clip, I do love all the candid race photos on your site.  Those jazz hands from Long Beach? Hilarious. 

But here’s the thing, Danica.  We are not of the same tribe.  On the surface we seem right for each other. After all, we are both women runners who write about our sport.  But I’m torn by the nearly thirty year gap between us.  Each time I visit chicrunner.com I’m like that creepy mom peeking at her daughter’s Facebook page.  I have a desperate sense of being in the wrong place. 

I know our relationship was short-lived and I’m sorry.  I hope you believe me when I say it’s not you, it’s me.  I’m just struggling to make a real connection. 

This same thing happened to me at Borders the other day when I pulled Run Like A Mother off the shelf.  It’s a newly-released running guide for women written by Sarah Bowen Shea and Dimity McDowell, two runner-mom-wife-professional women balancing their lives with equanimity and grace.  Like you, the authors give great advice but it’s just not right for me. No husband, no kids and few cares, I could run all day long if my arthritic-prone back would allow it. 

Ah yes, arthritis.  That brings me to what I’ve wanted to tell you all along.  I have a new blog crush.  Her name is Ellison and she also writes about our sport at OldGalRunning.blogspot.com.  She runs, she reads (major big bonus) and she’s over 50!  Seth Godin was right when he said we’re all looking to make a connection with others who share our ideas, experiences and desires. When we find that, we find our tribe—that place that, when you go there, they want to take you in. 

I’m not forlorn for leaving you—I’m ready for this change. Ellison gets my need for afternoon naps and doesn’t wince when I say menopause out loud.  We are both age-defying athletes with something to prove.  Getting older does have its benefits—just ask Paula Radcliffe.  An aging runner not-yet 40, she said “things like mental strength and endurance, if anything, get better with age.”  And she’s right.  Did I tell you Ellison qualified for Boston at 48 during her very first marathon, ever? (Don’t hang your head, Danica–you will get there, too. And probably while you’re still in your 20’s, I bet.) 

Old runners read great literature. Follow the reading list of oldgalrunning.blogspot.com for more great reads

Anyway, this is not a permanent good-bye.  I’ll still follow you on Twitter and nod a hello at race expos, should we ever meet.  But for now, I gotta run. 

Cheers, 

Shelly

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